L Kamasutra : The Big O ( no, Not Oprah ) – part I

Hey ladies

by right kau tengok gambar je kau dah tau kita nak bincang topik Orgasm kan?

Lets cut the chase , im putting the big O issue on the table for everybody to see and hopefully understand the big O is a reference to Orgasm, and we know it is fun !

GEGEH !

It’s indeed generally understood that by the end of sexual activity, the pleasurable feeling at the peak of sexual arousal is expected , also known as Orgasm. Those who have not have orgasms before, oh girl where have u been? Here’s some exciting clue for you – during orgasm, many women’s heart rates skyrocket, their breathing quickens, and their blood pressure rates increase; muscles throughout their bodies spasm, but mostly those in the vagina, uterus, anus, and pelvic floor.

[ anus, only if u take it from the back that is ]

But do not you worry girl, we can work your way up to heaven’s on earth ( literally ), it’s just you require a little extra to get there !

Orgasms feel good, sila tanya kepada mereka yang selalu orgasm . It is always so good that during orgasm, our body release chemicals called endorphins into the bloodstream. They cause pleasant sensations to ripple through the body, but they also make many women feel happy, giddy, flushed, warm, or sleepy.

Ah,  notice that glowing look in your friend’s face ? tips mendapatkan muka glowing bersinar sinar adalah orgasm yang hebat, not because of SKII or any cosmetic products

fuh

Women’s orgasm maybe is as tricky as the subject of chemistry however , like everything else, a little understanding would definitely help a lot to get your woman the best orgasm she ever going to experience. With that in mind, please know that all women are different. Meaning to say, there is no one general rule of orgasmic pleasure that is applicable to every women.

If your woman having difficulty to orgasm, u may at first feel a little discouraging or even lose your self -esteem. u always are open to that but hear hear, there could be many reasons for your partner’s inability to have an orgasm and none of them have to do with your skill or ability as a lover. So dont beat yourself up because of this.

Set your worry and anxious aside, instead harness that negativities turn em into positive actions.

Trust me, you’ll get there though it’s going to take some patience, some trial and error, but when you finally get that long awaited orgasm, you’ll have the rest of your lives together to perfect it, so stay positive. Let’s face it, ladies — good things really do come to those who wait. It is going to be worth the long wait uols.

First, find out what is the problem leading to your partner’s inability to orgasm. Maybe psychological reasons? She probably a survivor of sexual abuse , that definitely could affect her ability to relax and come even with a partner she truly loves and trusts , or physical reasons? check whether she has any physical problems ,  medication of some sort that inhibit her ability to orgasm? depression can cause one sexual desire and orgasmic response decreasing either one of the above or both issues usually cause the inability to orgasm, affecting their sex drive and functioning.

the persistent inability to orgasm is attributed to the female orgasmic disorder. yes, there is such disorder . the next logical thing is to bring her to a physician to address the issue (s), that is i reckon very unlikely to happen unless u and your woman are ready to open up about your sexuality to him/her. on a second thought, this isn’t just about the orgasmic irregularity,because it is largely affecting your woman’s ability to enjoy the pleasures in life, by the same token affecting her mental capacity which can in a long term cause a mental disorder ! so yeah, bring her to see a non judgemental physician !

Of course there is much more to sex than orgasm. The physical closeness and intimacy of being naked and vulnerable with each other is a personal thing you share with your beloved only. When sex becomes goal oriented, the sense of intimacy and connection can be lost. You partner may feel she is letting you down by not coming. Reassure her that you love her and love being with her and that all you want is to make her feel good.

Sex can be enjoyable without orgasm , or you can orgasm alone. err

that’s a bit selfish aint it?

ai will be back with the 2nd part soon

til then , work with your clitoris

im just kidding

tata gorgeous

dwq

L Kamasutra : When Sex Gets Old too, the LBD dilemma revisit

Hey the L Kamasutra is back baby .

 boom boom boom

*sound efek harap maklum*

Grab your partner and get your lovin’ on !

(terus tarik cikmia ha ha ha)

[Did you know that when it comes to sex, to achieve orgasm a woman needs an average of twenty to thirty minutes.To get in the mood for passionate love making, we all know we can't skip the foreplaying part. Think i have  that covered some time ago.]

Somewhere in 2009 i wrote about Lesbian Bed Death but the content was focused more on the reasons behind LBD, here is the link for you to read.

For some reasons, there would be point in time some couples’ sexual intimacy slows down where no more sizzling and steamy sex as frequent as at the beginning of the relationship, some could even be taking a hiatus from sex . This is not entirely the heterosexual couples dilemma, lesbians also suffer the same known as LBD

At the beginning of our relationship, lets just admit we are almost like an insatiable beast who won’t get tired of sex marathon and rather have sex than eat or go to work  . by all means, we rather get wet under the sheets not minding being a prisoner in our own home.

A study has shown that during the 6th to 24th months of the relationship, we are in a stage called limerance where a chemical called PEA is produced having the effect as ” intense passion, the rose colored world and the heightened sense that our partner is a perfect being that can do no wrong. More importantly, PEA increases our level of sexual desire. ”

Past the 24th month, we are back to our natural sexual desire.

So to relight the fire and bringing back the subside sparks , create the most satisfying sexual experience for both partners here some useful tips .

1. Set The Atmosphere

ini adalah perkara paling asas but bears mentioning though ! nak mendapatkan mood senggama apatah lagi sekembali dari kerja (contohnya) , berpenat lelah dan tak kuasa nak layan sesiapa kecuali katil, setting a romantic ambience for instance plays a huge role , try setting up some candlelight, lingerie, music to get u and ur partner on.

Senggama memerlukan persiapan, bukan sekadar terjah.

Jika langsung tak ada masa untuk senggama, kerana komitmen kerja dan sebagainya, set aside some time to have sex, make a sexual date with your partner.

MAKE TIME FOR SEX. Cum on !!!

2. Can I Touch You Here?

Tau tak betapa pentingnya sentuhan ? Jika tidak, mana mungkin Dan Hill menyanyikan lagu Sometimes When We Touch. It just shows the importance of touching your partner right.  Your partner wants to be touched by you and by touching it can be by sensual massaging, caressing, stimulating and any other types of touching u can imagine.

Touch your partner right to get her in the mood.

I cannot emphasis enough how communication is essential here, u are the only person who knows exactly what u like , what your body sensations like, TELL your partner where and when to touch cause if u fail to do so, u will lose interest in sex very very soon. Worse, you could also lose your partner

Gulp!

3. Don’t Play Mind Games

It helps a lot if you and your partner share the Dos and Donts when it comes to what you both want in bed. Assuming you do not fancy your partner sticking her finger up your ass, tell her that. im just saying lah kan.

Basically just do not let assumptions running wildly in the bedroom. Just because you and her have been together for 3 years now, you thought u know everything about her expectations or lack of  it in the bedroom. No No No.

Ask if u must.

Neither of you are a psychic who can read each other’s minds. By posing questions , each will understand further the other’s needs and wants, dislikes and whatnots. Great sexual communication subsequently will reflect on the intercourse in the long run

4. Play Mind Games

This type of Mind Games are different from the above, do not get confused yet and allow me to explain.

To jumpstart your woman’s sexual desire, remember a woman’s mind is her largest sexual organ.

Okay, there are definitely mind games that are FABULOUS to play in bed. No better time to make your sexual fantasies come true by introducing mind games as such could trigger the mood for lovin, what are they like?

A few to consider involve role-playing your favorite scenarios ( nurse/patience), diving into deeper waters with some light bondage ( tema S&M disitu ), and acting out favorite scenes from a movie or x-rated flick.

5. Mix It Up

You know in X rated movies where the sex flow is pretty much predictable?  i.e foreplay ( kissing, licking, sucking ) and eventually lead up to the intercourse (fucking ) and the men cum marks the end of the movie

( err kantoi tengok porno heterosexual )

You and your partner, it does not have to be like that. Taking a break from sex to move back into foreplay actually allows for an amazing opportunity to achieve new layers of sensual stimulation. Think about how wonderfully tortuous it would be to stop in the middle of intercourse and just spend a few minutes kissing and touching, slowing things down for a bit before moving back into sex.

If the sex flow is typically ala X rated movie, which is very much predictable, you partner wont be caught by surprise anymore. She would be able to guess what is next and what follows afterward. Whatmore if the sex is based on one position only !

Asyik gunting, gunting, gunting

That is BORING !!

After u read this, throw away the boring flow and flush it down the toilet bowl. Therefore mix it up, foreplay, sex, foreplay , sex and cum. Not forgetting variation of positions please. Now imagine how it will make your partner feel, smiling from ear to ear .

Just a friendly reminder, try switching as many positions yang termampu in between okay? Make your partner wanting more from you.

AUM !!

6. Try Something New

Not everybody would agree that sex is important, but to some sex is as important as honesty, trust etc in a relationship. Bayangkan, sleeping with the same person for the past 6 years. Ada kemungkinan keghairahan di ranjang sudah tiada.

Malang sekali.

Routines could be boring to some, but some rather stay in their comfort zone. To always have the sparks in your bedroom and having a mind blowing sex, never resort to routines. it’s boring.

As the headline suggest, introduce something “new” every single day of the week particularly in the sexual intercourse department. Take a look at an online adult sensual products store .

Tak semestinya dildo dan vibrator aje, there are other things to try such as body paint, a new sensual love game, or even an adult DVD.

Visit ineedhouse website .

With all do respect, get your partner’s consent before splurge into getting new adult toy for instance, she might not comfortable having a fake penis inside her vagina. think of that.

okay?

Have i mentioned fantasy during sex? Include that in the sex repertoire to heighten sexual desire and arousal.

Also incorporate porn ( maybe watching porn together ?) , sextape ( err .. ) , try different locations , set different scenes , no repetitive positions ( be creative lah ), use props ( bunny suit maybe ? )

Tudiah tema penjimatan pakai penyepit kain

lalalalala

nak fancy sedikit pakai yang ni pulak

Explore your mind and be wild !

As long as it is safe and your partner is willing , the sky is your limit. Always discuss openly with your partner as the ideas may intimidating  or not fitting her sexual appetite.

TALK about it.

7. Love Your Partner

Sex is an intimate moments shared by two loving people that provides the feeling of togetherness. To be able to enjoy sex thoroughly, u have to love your partner. Besides lovemaking is truly an expression of devotion to each other that goes beyond just a physical intimacy.

Contrary to popular belief ( or misconception ), sex isn’t an indication of the amount of love in a relationship but rather an aspect of a loving relationship.

You can always tell which couples are having great sex and which ones aren’t.

8. Sex does not have to end with Orgasm

“Sex” ends with an “x” and not with an “orgasm”. If your partner doesn’t feel the need or desire to have an orgasm, don’t force it. An orgasm is not the sole indication that your partner enjoyed having sex with you.

Chances are that you and your partner have a different level of sexual desire which is going to result in one of you wanting sex more often. Nothing is worse for a relationship than constantly having your sexual advances rejected. If you are simply not in the mood for sex, there is absolutely nothing wrong with either holding and caressing your partner while she is masturbating or in taking a few minutes to sexually satisfy your partner and then snuggling up to sleep. What better way is there to really show your partner that you love her? If we don’t loosen our definitions of what sex is or isn’t, we eventually strangle the life right out of our sex.

“That having been said, whether you are having sex once a day or once a year, be adventurous, be kind, be caring, be loving, be intimate, be sexy, be exciting, but most of all – be communicating every step of the way.”

Selamat menyahkan LBD

All the best

regards,

dwq