Seksualiti Merdeka bukan Seks Bebas

I have to write about SM somehow. It truly breaks my heart that the PDRM decided to threw a blanket ban on all of the programmes lined up for this year’s event  ! Such a shame, on u PDRM !

That was done without any due inspections on the event itself. unfortunately political ploy is what i suspect the banning was about. indeed it was true. for any events that go against the will of the Government that be, law instruments will come in handy on their favour. they somehow too will use race card, religion card to win the game.

do u notice the fate on SM banning now?

Seks Bebas, is utterly and apparently a FITNAH!

The Malay language media reports basically those on Govt-owned are imparting unfair reports and misleading the least . I have read that the Tamil news DO NOT cover about SM fiasco at all, and the Chinese news have sorted out the distortion within 3 days time .

I cannot help but wonder whether they have had read through the tentative / programmes before imparting the biggest fitnah ever on national television? Talking about irresponsible journalism .

In the same breath, those who spew hatred and are against the idea of SM, have u ever really physically present at any of the activities held by them?

If u were never there, i do not think your opinions are worthy of any cents at all.

It’s like you are discriminating against our own kind who are already a marginalised group, have u ever sit at the corner and thought about it before commenting relentlessly? Your single-minded minds are not helping the true objective of SM, for once to empower the marginalised group as us, the LGBT to not be afraid of being different , to not being afraid of standing up for yourself when u are being bullied in the school, in the university or even in your workplace, just because u are of different sexuality?

U can actually bear the facts the LGBTs are persecuted simply because sexually we are having no interests as against the opposite sex? So u are saying it’s okay they are virulently passing hatred against us, it is okay to be oppressed just because u dress like a tomboy, it’s okay i could not get the job because i’m an outed lesbian although i am eligible by merit .

Is it fair of a living as a second class citizen in your own country? It’s too bad we were born women in Malaysia, as lesbians women, we are now reduced to a third class citizen ? do not tell me u really do not bother about being discriminate against, by your gender, by your sexuality, no?

Looking at the history, if they were never women movements whom fought for women’s equality in the past, we women never would enjoy the privilege we benefit today from those women who have sacrificed their lives, their time and energy in the anticipation of a better future . By the same token , ( i took this from the SM wall ) it is a fact that if the blacks did not fight for their equal rights in the 60′s, there could never be a black US president.

Likewise, if event such as SM is always crushed when they are putting forward advocating for our very basic rights to be protected, how would u imagine the future would be?

I can only imagine that women would understand the struggle of the LGBTs only because women are the group of people that always likely to receive unfair treatments on the basis of gender differences.

Please know, the event was not just attended by the LGBT, there are many others who are not LGBTs, curious to find out about this marginalised people and who might be concern about their members of the family who might / happen to be LGBTs. The LGBTs appearance well, like myself was to further understand where do we stand in the society at large, ai felt belonged in the group because nobody saw me as different, ai was engaged in their activities , ai learned more about myself, about the LGBT ,  and also ai know it’s a cruel world against the LGBT, full of hatred and hypocrisy . SM was actually a platform to have a civilised discussion in open forums on taboo topics which we can never ever find on Malaysian tabloids. a forum where we can speak up, voice out our point of views, ask questions with regards to sexuality without fear and without being judged.

Only the LGBTs would understand, that everyday is a struggle for us, the SM came into the picture to acknowledge that we are not alone, we have each other, to advocate the ignorants and prejudices that we are here to stay.

Ai can truly be appease with the comments , even if the person does not agree to the event, as long as they actually present and attended the programme . When u are never really there to engage in the programmes , how can u say mean things about it? it’s almost like saying, yeah i never attended the party, i just read about it from the news, but i know they were smoking weeds, they must be.

Hypocrite much?

Like in 2010, i have to highlight one programme called the ‘coming out ‘ workshop. the workshop did not intend for the attendees to come out immediately to their family members soon as the programme ends,  NO. In fact, despite continuously having to bear shame all of your live because of the sexuality that u were born with, it encourages the LGBTs to be truthful to themselves and accept their sexuality with open hearts, knowing that the Almighty God created us all in different manners, forms , races, religions.

Not just that, the PT Foundations , among many of the collaborators, provide for free counsellings . The Bar Council provides for talks on human rights in general  as well as our constitutional rights, which i know many of us the laypersons are lacking of.

So, you, sitting at the comfort of your room, writing derogatory comments on an event u have no tad idea of its allabout, honestly they carry no values at all.

I hope by writing this entry would pass on some ideas unto u readers about the Seksualiti Merdeka. I cannot write in extra length because it is only fair that you come to the event yourself and experience the empowerment the event conveys on your own.

Unfortunately, yeah it has been banned.

Those who take the stand to remain silent against oppression are the oppressor themselves .

Thanks for reading , and for all we know, love will prevail !

dwq

L Kamasutra : The Big O ( no, Not Oprah ) – part I

Hey ladies

by right kau tengok gambar je kau dah tau kita nak bincang topik Orgasm kan?

Lets cut the chase , im putting the big O issue on the table for everybody to see and hopefully understand the big O is a reference to Orgasm, and we know it is fun !

GEGEH !

It’s indeed generally understood that by the end of sexual activity, the pleasurable feeling at the peak of sexual arousal is expected , also known as Orgasm. Those who have not have orgasms before, oh girl where have u been? Here’s some exciting clue for you – during orgasm, many women’s heart rates skyrocket, their breathing quickens, and their blood pressure rates increase; muscles throughout their bodies spasm, but mostly those in the vagina, uterus, anus, and pelvic floor.

[ anus, only if u take it from the back that is ]

But do not you worry girl, we can work your way up to heaven’s on earth ( literally ), it’s just you require a little extra to get there !

Orgasms feel good, sila tanya kepada mereka yang selalu orgasm . It is always so good that during orgasm, our body release chemicals called endorphins into the bloodstream. They cause pleasant sensations to ripple through the body, but they also make many women feel happy, giddy, flushed, warm, or sleepy.

Ah,  notice that glowing look in your friend’s face ? tips mendapatkan muka glowing bersinar sinar adalah orgasm yang hebat, not because of SKII or any cosmetic products

fuh

Women’s orgasm maybe is as tricky as the subject of chemistry however , like everything else, a little understanding would definitely help a lot to get your woman the best orgasm she ever going to experience. With that in mind, please know that all women are different. Meaning to say, there is no one general rule of orgasmic pleasure that is applicable to every women.

If your woman having difficulty to orgasm, u may at first feel a little discouraging or even lose your self -esteem. u always are open to that but hear hear, there could be many reasons for your partner’s inability to have an orgasm and none of them have to do with your skill or ability as a lover. So dont beat yourself up because of this.

Set your worry and anxious aside, instead harness that negativities turn em into positive actions.

Trust me, you’ll get there though it’s going to take some patience, some trial and error, but when you finally get that long awaited orgasm, you’ll have the rest of your lives together to perfect it, so stay positive. Let’s face it, ladies — good things really do come to those who wait. It is going to be worth the long wait uols.

First, find out what is the problem leading to your partner’s inability to orgasm. Maybe psychological reasons? She probably a survivor of sexual abuse , that definitely could affect her ability to relax and come even with a partner she truly loves and trusts , or physical reasons? check whether she has any physical problems ,  medication of some sort that inhibit her ability to orgasm? depression can cause one sexual desire and orgasmic response decreasing either one of the above or both issues usually cause the inability to orgasm, affecting their sex drive and functioning.

the persistent inability to orgasm is attributed to the female orgasmic disorder. yes, there is such disorder . the next logical thing is to bring her to a physician to address the issue (s), that is i reckon very unlikely to happen unless u and your woman are ready to open up about your sexuality to him/her. on a second thought, this isn’t just about the orgasmic irregularity,because it is largely affecting your woman’s ability to enjoy the pleasures in life, by the same token affecting her mental capacity which can in a long term cause a mental disorder ! so yeah, bring her to see a non judgemental physician !

Of course there is much more to sex than orgasm. The physical closeness and intimacy of being naked and vulnerable with each other is a personal thing you share with your beloved only. When sex becomes goal oriented, the sense of intimacy and connection can be lost. You partner may feel she is letting you down by not coming. Reassure her that you love her and love being with her and that all you want is to make her feel good.

Sex can be enjoyable without orgasm , or you can orgasm alone. err

that’s a bit selfish aint it?

ai will be back with the 2nd part soon

til then , work with your clitoris

im just kidding

tata gorgeous

dwq