siri putus cinta – opening up for a new love

Always, always the biggest fear that follow suit after a hideous past experience in relationship is fear of rejection or the fear of a possible perpetuating bad experiences. No doubt it is hurtful but by worrying so much that the similar things might hurt u twice, ure denying yourself the right to love and be loved.

Trust me, it is worth the pain once u have found your soulmate. Should you not take up the opportunity, you are the one is at loss.

The real problem comes when it’s time for you to start enjoying something, and you’re still held back by your fear. What do you do and how can you overcome this?

A good starting point is remembering this motto, “Nothing in life worth having, or keeping, is going to be effortless or painless.” If you’re going to be involved with someone, this can also include a friendship, you need to make a commitment to them that you’re willing to give it your all. Although, the relationship could end in heartbreak, it is far better to know you gave and loved with everything, than to know deep down you held back your emotions.

If you find that opening yourself to love and/or relationships is difficult for you (or possibly a friend), try one of the following ideas and tips.

Don’tThink,JustDo
this does not rule out your better judgment or simply doing things without putting thorough thoughts on it but if you’re the type of person that over-evaluates everything, give yourself a break. Allow yourself to “go with the flow” instead of worrying about what the outcome will be. Remember, there is valuable information in the saying, “Whatever will be, will be.”

AllowExperiences
How many times have you declined to do something, or not pursued something (or someone) because you were worried about an unpleasant experience? Take the risk next time and allow yourself to experience things. You may find the risk was worth it!

BeOpenAndHonest
Many times you’ll find someone who is worried about something, but has never even spoken with the other partner about it. It’s very difficult to maintain a relationship if you don’t let your partner know how you feel about something or any concerns you may have. Sharing your thoughts will not only help alleviate your fears, but it will also begin the start of a solid relationship.

Do Unto Others
If you’re insecure about something, there’s a high chance that it could quite possibly be caused by something similar you’ve done in the past. Keep pesky, guilty feelings at bay by following the golden rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Not only will you feel better about yourself, you’ll also find it easier to be open when you’ve got nothing to hide!

Those who simply sit and wait for love to come to her shore is regretfully depriving themselves from love – “deemed to be the most fascinating and beautiful thing than can ever happen to the humankind “, despite that it really hurts to love sometimes but won’t u rather feel the pain than to live and regret not having to feel such feeling?

love is one of those game that is highly risky but rest assured you will not regret investing your tangible and intangible possession at stake! yeah life if anything revolves around uncertainties so no such drivel claiming prudence over life, whatmore love. so be bold , dare yourself and trust yourself enough to be able to feel love again

open up your heart ! open up your heart for love !

dwq

siri putus cinta – letting go of the past love

dear ladies whose heart are broken,

more often than not it holds true that many of us are unable to let go of our past. we probably try to, maybe that’s the best we can afford to do when dealing with the past.  it is noteworthy to mention, we should not allow the past to change our outlook on life and go all the way change ourselves as a person.the shadows of the past should not be allowed to dictate our future. though it can be used to our advantage as a guide but not to control our future. we sure will disconnecting ourselves from the ability to control and pass it on the past the supremacy to dictate . it’s a sad sad situation

can’t relate much do you? the relevance of letting go your past love is  that most of us generally tend to compare everyone who they let into their life with the people in the past who have hurt them. as a result, they are voluntarily letting the people of the past to control their future as well, and somehow still attached to them subconsciously.  do you see how bad the past has affecting the future now? it is isn’t even a real person who controls them, but a shadow !

now the purpose of this entry is to release the shadows of the past & subsequently eradicate it altogether.

of course, before u plan on to eradicate the shadows, you have to find them. hence get in touch with yourself , the best way i know to do so is by writing a journal. since this is a continuation of the previous section of the siri putus cinta [ if u have not notice, this is the entry ], you should by now be able to learn a few things about yourself and come to realise / discover if not much , hints of the shadows , which contain the gist of your bare feelings whilst u ar ein the process of  healing your broken heart.

this is in essence a personal discovery, therefore take it upon yourself to commit to this regime of journal writing . hopefully by doing so you will have different outlook towards many things, including love.

once you are down with WHAT/WHO are the shadows, it’s about time to figure out WHY they are there.  This isn’t figuring out what a person may have done to you, but rather working out why you feel the need to have the shadows there in the first place. Take a few minutes to answer these questions:

1. Can you only love one person?
2. Is it an equal relationship if only one partner is giving love? How can this negatively affect you?
3. What have you learned about yourself from your past relationships, starting with the first?
4. What traits did your last partner have that you would NOT want in a future partner?
5. What traits did your last partner have that you WOULD want in a future partner?
6. What things do you wish you had not done to previous romantic partners, starting with the first?
7. What things do you wish previous romantic partners had not done, starting with the first?
8. What changes do you feel you can make right now to make you happier?

Now that you have done this, go over it again and add more to each of your answers. Once you have completed that, go over it one more time. Make sure you include anything and everything you can think of. Just remember, don’t get sidetracked onto other issues not related to your romantic life.

The last step is to finally, forgive and forget. You can’t go forward if you’re stuck on someone in the past. Agree that you were a great partner, you did the best you could and if it’s not meant to be, then it’s just not meant to be. Things work out the way they do for a reason. Sometimes the reasons are not always clear right away. Trust in yourself that the right decisions were made, and know that you don’t need anyone else to make you happy. Only you can truly do that.

dwq is wishing you well