Everything In My Head

Seksualiti Merdeka bukan Seks Bebas

dwq — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 04:43:38 +0000

I have to write about SM somehow. It truly breaks my heart that the PDRM decided to threw a blanket ban on all of the programmes lined up for this year’s event ! Such a shame, on u PDRM !

That was done without any due inspections on the event itself. unfortunately political ploy is what i suspect the banning was about. indeed it was true. for any events that go against the will of the Government that be, law instruments will come in handy on their favour. they somehow too will use race card, religion card to win the game.

do u notice the fate on SM banning now?

Seks Bebas, is utterly and apparently a FITNAH!

The Malay language media reports basically those on Govt-owned are imparting unfair reports and misleading the least . I have read that the Tamil news DO NOT cover about SM fiasco at all, and the Chinese news have sorted out the distortion within 3 days time .

I cannot help but wonder whether they have had read through the tentative / programmes before imparting the biggest fitnah ever on national television? Talking about irresponsible journalism .

In the same breath, those who spew hatred and are against the idea of SM, have u ever really physically present at any of the activities held by them?

If u were never there, i do not think your opinions are worthy of any cents at all.

It’s like you are discriminating against our own kind who are already a marginalised group, have u ever sit at the corner and thought about it before commenting relentlessly? Your single-minded minds are not helping the true objective of SM, for once to empower the marginalised group as us, the LGBT to not be afraid of being different , to not being afraid of standing up for yourself when u are being bullied in the school, in the university or even in your workplace, just because u are of different sexuality?

U can actually bear the facts the LGBTs are persecuted simply because sexually we are having no interests as against the opposite sex? So u are saying it’s okay they are virulently passing hatred against us, it is okay to be oppressed just because u dress like a tomboy, it’s okay i could not get the job because i’m an outed lesbian although i am eligible by merit .

Is it fair of a living as a second class citizen in your own country? It’s too bad we were born women in Malaysia, as lesbians women, we are now reduced to a third class citizen ? do not tell me u really do not bother about being discriminate against, by your gender, by your sexuality, no?

Looking at the history, if they were never women movements whom fought for women’s equality in the past, we women never would enjoy the privilege we benefit today from those women who have sacrificed their lives, their time and energy in the anticipation of a better future . By the same token , ( i took this from the SM wall ) it is a fact that if the blacks did not fight for their equal rights in the 60′s, there could never be a black US president.

Likewise, if event such as SM is always crushed when they are putting forward advocating for our very basic rights to be protected, how would u imagine the future would be?

I can only imagine that women would understand the struggle of the LGBTs only because women are the group of people that always likely to receive unfair treatments on the basis of gender differences.

Please know, the event was not just attended by the LGBT, there are many others who are not LGBTs, curious to find out about this marginalised people and who might be concern about their members of the family who might / happen to be LGBTs. The LGBTs appearance well, like myself was to further understand where do we stand in the society at large, ai felt belonged in the group because nobody saw me as different, ai was engaged in their activities , ai learned more about myself, about the LGBT , and also ai know it’s a cruel world against the LGBT, full of hatred and hypocrisy . SM was actually a platform to have a civilised discussion in open forums on taboo topics which we can never ever find on Malaysian tabloids. a forum where we can speak up, voice out our point of views, ask questions with regards to sexuality without fear and without being judged.

Only the LGBTs would understand, that everyday is a struggle for us, the SM came into the picture to acknowledge that we are not alone, we have each other, to advocate the ignorants and prejudices that we are here to stay.

Ai can truly be appease with the comments , even if the person does not agree to the event, as long as they actually present and attended the programme . When u are never really there to engage in the programmes , how can u say mean things about it? it’s almost like saying, yeah i never attended the party, i just read about it from the news, but i know they were smoking weeds, they must be.

Hypocrite much?

Like in 2010, i have to highlight one programme called the ‘coming out ‘ workshop. the workshop did not intend for the attendees to come out immediately to their family members soon as the programme ends, NO. In fact, despite continuously having to bear shame all of your live because of the sexuality that u were born with, it encourages the LGBTs to be truthful to themselves and accept their sexuality with open hearts, knowing that the Almighty God created us all in different manners, forms , races, religions.

Not just that, the PT Foundations , among many of the collaborators, provide for free counsellings . The Bar Council provides for talks on human rights in general as well as our constitutional rights, which i know many of us the laypersons are lacking of.

So, you, sitting at the comfort of your room, writing derogatory comments on an event u have no tad idea of its allabout, honestly they carry no values at all.

I hope by writing this entry would pass on some ideas unto u readers about the Seksualiti Merdeka. I cannot write in extra length because it is only fair that you come to the event yourself and experience the empowerment the event conveys on your own.

Unfortunately, yeah it has been banned.

Those who take the stand to remain silent against oppression are the oppressor themselves .

Thanks for reading , and for all we know, love will prevail !

dwq

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L Kamasutra : O yes ( making her ‘come ‘)

dwq — Wed, 02 Nov 2011 05:21:34 +0000

Now we are on to the exciting part of this topic.

Click on this link if you wanna read the previous part of this Orgasmic topic

Is your gear/ skill up for a test?

For starters, almost any type of sexual stimulation can lead to orgasm. therefore we all know a woman can have an orgasm through intercourse, oral sex, or anal sex; manual stimulation of the vulva by her partner; body rubbing (“dry humping”); or masturbation.

Some are extremely sensitive on their body parts that just by touching their breasts or by fantasizing about sex, they could come.

Amazing enough?

For sure, those of you who have had the privilege to sleep with countless number of women would know that by now !

( on top of that, please see a doctor and get a thorough medical check up, yknow just to rule out that u have the unwanted sexual diseases , just saying)

However many women, the contact has to be much more direct — right on the genitals — and in a regular, rhythmic pattern. Stimulation of two major parts of the genitals can cause a woman to have an orgasm: the clitoris (which is a part of the vulva) and the vagina. A woman can have an orgasm through stimulation of just her clitoris, just her vagina, or both. But most women have orgasms through stimulation of the clitoris.

Eh that reminds me of an entry i wrote a long long time ago, check it out u gotta love this: titik erotik wanita

Well according to most of us, the most common type of female orgasm would be the stimulation of the clitoris as well as the vagina.

If you could create simultaneously vaginal and clitoral orgasms , different types of orgasms can be achieved , which is definitely the highest ranking or orgasm u would want to accomplish for your woman. err

That’s something that is going to stand out in your sex resume !!

Lets dissect this and discuss briefly each stimulation . But before i start, as a guiding illustration, be very careful when scrolling down, there may be some unacceptable obscenity on your screen

tadaaaaaaa

yes this is the vagina illustration

a) Clitoris

Clitoris stimulations is basically a very common sexual act within the lesbians. That’s why the term , munch carpet exists in the lesbians vocabulary inter alia. The clitoris has been equated to men’s penis having a central role in elevating feelings of sexual tension. During this sexual excitement,” the clitoris swell and changes position, the blood vessels through the whole pelvic area also swell, causing engorgement and creating a feeling of fullness and sexual sensitivity. Your inner vaginal lips swell and change shape. Your vagina balloons upward, and your uterus shifts position”.

Don’t believe me? Try that on your girlfriend now and see the difference for yourself :p

The varieties of stimulating your woman’s clitoris is aplenty. Go wild and explore for yourself. Go crazy rubbing, sucking, body pressure or even using a vibrator . use the resources in your surrounding, your hands, your fingers, your tongue, rubbing against your body there are so many ways to score a home run baby !

Just a friendly reminder, a long stimulation on clitoris may cause pleasurable sensations to disappear. therefore, the need to be creative and perhaps the help of lubricant !

“Small but mighty” is the righteous name to address the clitoris.

Practive makes perfect, so don’t give up. Try diffrent things till you find something she really likes.

b) Vaginal stimulation

So the myth about G-Spot is busted. Yes it is true though less common, that some women find the vaginal sensations could led her to female ejaculation !

The inner vagina is known to be extremely sensitive . This is particularly true of the outer third of a woman’s vagina, which has the most nerve endings out of the whole vaginal canal. This is what we referred to as ‘vaginal stimulation’

Clap, Clap !

Every sane lesbians would know what the G-Spot is. It can become extremely sensitive during sex play. And the G-spot can swell, which may make it easier to find. If you are lucky, sometimes during stimulation of it, a clear fluid will spurt out of the urethra. In some women, the fluid is similar to urine — but it’s not urine.

Yes, it’s true — about 10 percent of women can actually ejaculate! Is your woman included in that 10 percent of people? u never know not until u try ;p

Tapi berhati hati eh, jangan kerana nak sangat capai target gadis kau klimaks dari vagina dan ejaculate, kau gunapakai instrumen bukan bukan seperti spatula, berus gigi, apatah lagi sayur sayuran yang berbentuk penis ( terung, timun, lobak)

hayioo NEVER uols !

ingat, making love is about making love, not pain !it is more to sex than just orgasm.

NGERTIH?

However, one exception is dildo, itu pun, get her Consent first ! Don’t just simply purchase and shove it into her pussy. That’s not the way it is cause we lesbians love our women !

A workable position to make it easier for your woman to reach this type of orgasm is when she is on top. She does not have to be a top, just positioned her on top of you while make out session. Ngertih?

There. let her straddles you, one leg on each side, facing you, and you insert your finger(s) into the vagina, and then she takes control. It also hits her G-spot, and she can control how fast or slow, and how deep.

That can work but just so you know it works really well with a dildo , so while the above is going on your hands are free hence you can touch her clitoris if she wants you to.

(mateila kalau boss kau nampak gambar nin. agagagaga)

So most women will have one orgasm, and then they’ll need to take a long break — stop or reduce sex play — before the next one. But some women can have several in a row — they can have multiple orgasms compared to men. while this information may be already earth shaking, additional news is that the vagina and clitoris may work together! The pea-sized clitoris may produce a titanic amount of pleasure the same time the vagina holds tons of nerve endings handy. Although nerve ending hot spots don’t guarantee pleasure, they’re great starting points in the pleasure puzzle. To discover what feels best (clitoris, vagina, or other body parts), women may either experiment alone or with a partner. When stimulation is the name of the game, there are lots of winning choices!

So, now that you’re an expert on orgasms, spread the word. The more women and their partners know about orgasms, the easier it will be to have one. Always remember that, continue to have a very open conversation and loving relationship with your partner . you and your partner will grow comfortable being with each other when you have longer sex together.

When both of you are open about it, the more things to experience and experiment together !

And before ai end this part, sharing is always caring right? here the Golden Rules to a heart thumping orgasm

1) make sure she’s in the mood for loving, therefore entice her mind into thinking a steamy make out she’s about to experience

2) routines are boring ! change them regularly. with every sexual encounter introduce something new or extra. wont harm to think ahead of ways to improve the make out session no?

3) The orgasm trick- As she is in her sexual peak, the usual course is she may push away from you or whatever the case. Do not allow her to do this, and stimulate just a bit harder after she has achieved her orgasm through her g-spot or clitoris (or both if you are really that crafty), and this will give her a jolt of pain and pleasure that may help her to orgasm again, and can even help her to achieve female ejaculation. ( wow aint it? )

i will revisit the Vaginal Stimulation intensely hopefully in the next entry but for now, work on your skills , make some women orgasm and share the joy to the world.

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signing off fellow experts!

dwq

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